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Living Your Potential

When and How to Say "No"

The Freedom in No

 
 
  Niurka  October 2, 2009 

“No” is a word that can save you time, energy and precious resources when you know when and how to use it purposefully. But many people have a difficult time saying “no” because they sincerely want to help and don’t want to disappoint others. So they take on more than they can handle, compromising the quality of performance, neglecting their own priorities, and burying themselves under mountains of responsibilities, tasks and activities that will never lead to their ultimate vision. That’s why it’s important to know when to say “no” – so rather than react to other’s demands, you respond based on your values and priorities.

One of the biggest reasons people have a difficult time saying “no” is because they haven’t clarified their own intention; other people’s goals become more important than their own in the absence of a specific vision.

Here is one question that will support you in determining when it makes sense to say “no” – ask yourself: Is this essential? And by essential, I don’t mean necessary or required. Rather, “essential” means, is it “of your essence” based on your values and vision? In other words, will this task lead you quickly and effectively to the best result that is aligned with your highest intention? If not, the answer is clearly “no”.

Learning to say “no” to non-essential tasks creates a path to freedom and success. It will clear your schedule of mental clutter so you can harness your life force and focus your attention on the realization of your goals. Having a clear vision and a strong sense of purpose gives you the discernment to know which actions yield the greatest return on investment for your time, energy and resources.

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  • Founding Partner
    NO is the most powerful word in Sales and in relationship building. By saying NO, you accomplish several things, first you get someone's attention. People hear NO much more clearly then they do YES! Once you have their attention, you now have an opportunity to share why NO had to be said. You have created teh opportunity to educate others on your priority list and your direction. This education will often yield new opportunities with that customer or individual. It will also build mutual respect for your time. Mutual respect is essential for a true relationship to occur.
  • Not Just No
    For years I have been used, and abused extensively because I could not say NO. I was always trying to fill a void by being exceptionally accomodating others people needs over minds. I couldnt even say No to a car salemen that sold me 4000 dollars in worthless warranty insurance on a 15,000 dollar car, or a realtor who devalued the appraise value on my property to sale to one of his relative, or neighbors, using and tearing up my property without repairing the damages. Finally at age 60 I have learned to begin to not just say No! but in order to survive in this world you have to say HELL NO!

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